When you see or hear the phrase “mom guilt” most people (especially moms) know exactly what you are talking about. I think it is horrible that such a phrase exists and is popular enough to have 16,100,000 results when it’s googled.
Being a mom is the most difficult, stressful, but also the most rewarding calling any woman can have. I know what it’s like to have that mom guilt.
I felt guilty for bottle feeding my infants and “failing” at breastfeeding because my work schedule was just too much. I feel guilty for letting my kids watch “too much” TV and play on electronics. I feel guilty for giving my kids too much sugar and junk food and too few organic foods. I feel guilty for having to work 8-9 hours a day dealing with other people’s children instead of taking care of and loving on my own during the day. I feel guilty for not having patience and snapping at my kids when they grate on my last nerve after a stressful day. I feel guilty for Tim picking up domestic duties during the day while I’m working.
Most of the time I don’t feel like I’m doing enough in any aspect of my life.
Well, enough is enough! God says if we are in Him, that is enough! Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’” How can we break free from this feeling of guilt and not living up to our own expectations or what we think others expect of us.
A lot of the guilt comes from me comparing myself to other mom friends, most of whom don’t work, so they have the ability to do everything I wish I could do during the day. It’s comparing apples to oranges, but for some reason I do it anyway. I know it is the devil saying, “Look at what SHE did with her child. She’s such a better mom than YOU are!” And it’s not true. We are also told in 2 Corinthians 10:5 to take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ, so I need to remember to say, “Get behind me, Satan!” when those thoughts creep in and remember that I am doing what is necessary and doing the best I can with the time I do have.
Life is hard enough without constantly comparing yourself to others so I will leave you with this lovely canvas that I requested my talented aunt paint for me a while back. Let’s let these reminders help us to rely on God so that we have peace and not guilt!